Parenting isn’t one-size-fits-all, and I’ve learned that when it comes to Asher’s eating habits, I’ve had to think outside the box.
Asher has been diagnosed with several eating disorders. It took years to get him diagnosed, with multiple doctors dismissing my concerns as “first-time mom worries.” But it wasn’t that. His selective food behavior is part of his autism.
With treatment and patience, things have improved, but I’ve had to find unconventional ways to encourage Asher to try new foods. My biggest lesson? Start where he’s at.
Asher loves sugar and chocolate. Yes, I know these preferences can indicate nutritional deficiencies, and we’ve done all the testing to rule that out. Instead, I’ve focused on working with him where he feels comfortable. For example, we recently made fudge together. Using a special Santa Claus mold, he tried marshmallow cream (and hated it) but eventually ate a piece of fudge. That may not seem like a win to others, but in our house, it’s huge. Why? Because he tried something new—twice!
This process has taught Asher more than just food acceptance. He’s learning life skills, like measuring ingredients (math!) and patience (he stirred for three of the five required minutes). These moments build his confidence and make food exploration less intimidating.
The biggest win? After trying oranges, Asher said, “Hmm, I like oranges.” That was music to my ears.
Every child’s journey is unique, especially when autism is part of the picture. Progress doesn’t have to look like a textbook example. For us, it looks like fudge molds, oranges, and small but significant steps toward a healthier relationship with food.
To all the parents navigating similar challenges: keep going. Celebrate the small wins. Progress comes in unexpected ways.
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